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Τρίτη, 10 Ιανουαρίου 2017





Lasting relationships are built on mutual trust, love, and admire. It’s a regular deliver-and-take. While one character is continually the one having to compromise or sacrifice, it is able to lead to resentment. In case your accomplice constantly puts himself earlier than you, is self-centered, or isn’t worried with how you sense, they probably don’t deserve you. It’s frequently too true that we don’t know what we’ve got till it’s gone. Irrespective of how tough you attempt, you could’t trade a person. If they are able to’t appreciate you for who you’re, they don’t deserve your love.

Right here are four signs you like someone who doesn’t deserve you:

1. They Belittle You

Ιn case your partner continuously criticizes you or belittles you, no longer only do they now not care about your emotions, they absolutely experience hurting you. Someone who makes fun of your look, your weight, your activity, your desires, or your beliefs isn’t worth it slow. Their imply-lively feedback are without a doubt meant to harm you. Someone who loves you will in no way want to rip you down. They would strive to motivate you and guide you with a purpose to make you happy. The ultimate component they could need to do is criticize you, make you self-aware, or make you sense such as you don’t should be satisfied.

2. They Lie To You

Without trust, a relationship cannot last. A person who deserves your love will understand how important it is to establish a trustworthy relationship. If you’ve caught your partner in a lie repeatedly, they don’t value trust. Lying is also a form of disrespect. A partner who deserves you will always be honest with you. They won’t have anything to hide from you, so they’ll have no reason to lie to you.

3. They Cheat On You

A partner who cheats on you does not deserve your love. Cheating is a sign of true selfishness. Not only does it destroy your trust, it also destroys your communication, your intimacy, and just about every aspect of your relationship. A serial cheater will most likely never change. Walking away can be difficult, but it’s important to have enough respect for yourself to know that it’s time to move on.

4. They Are Takers And Not Givers

People in a mutually loving relationship, to some extent, are givers. They give their time, resources, love and space to their partners. With a giver, everyone is taken care of and happy. With a taker, only one half of the relationship is giving everything while the other partner mooches off them. Like a black hole, they suck in resources and give nothing back in return. It is a one way street with them. It is either their way or the highway. You need someone who can accept that you are your own person with your own desires, emotions and needs. You need someone who gives back to the relationship more than they take away from it.

Sources:
http://www.livehealthylifecoach.com/4-signs-love-someone-doesnt-deserve/
https://www.davidwolfe.com/4-signs-love-someone-doesnt-deserve-you/
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/5-signs-love-someone-doesnt-deserve/
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Κυριακή, 8 Ιανουαρίου 2017





Sometimes it’s easy to settle and forget the kind of love that you deserve. This is a letter for me, for you and for anyone whom might need a reminder of what that kind of love looks like: what you are worth.

You deserve more than someone who shifts to the other side of the bed leaving you dreading the thought of morning, a reminder that intoxicated desire looks different the morning after. You deserve someone who will want to wake up to touch where the sun seeps through the blinds and lands on your cheek. Someone who tells you how beautiful you are while you’re sleeping, when you’re mad, when you cry during your favorite movie even though you’ve seen it a thousand times. You deserve someone who appreciates you for all that you are. Someone who asks to keep lights on so that they can admire you in your purest state.

You deserve someone who doesn’t agree with you all the time but when you argue, it feels as if you’re pushing each other to be your best selves. Someone who wants to sit down and talk with you until dusk turns to dawn about new beginnings, desires, the unknown, the indescribable feeling of ecstasy when you’re immersed in the warm ocean. Someone who knows that the touch of warm skin sometimes says more than a thousand conversations could. You deserve someone just as independent and driven as you are, if not more. Someone who will inspire you. Someone who will trust you enough to give you space to grow. Someone who pushes you to travel down a path of understanding, to be unashamed and to fill yourself with courage.

You deserve what is best for you and that will look different than what anyone else has. Although you’ll have to jump some hurdles to get there, fight tears, and endure nights alone… when you stumble upon what you deserve, from there, the rest won’t matter. Have faith that it will come when the time is right. You deserve it.

Love,

Someone who cares

By Sienna Brown

Sienna Brown is co-founder and Communications Director of WildSpice Magazine. She is constantly on a journey to inspire and be inspired while engaging in different methods of creation. See more of her work here and follow her on twitter and instagram
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Σάββατο, 7 Ιανουαρίου 2017





We tried to do this without using words. Alas, everything we tried did not seem to work, thus we shall do it with their aid – so you will not need them.

TELL YOUR PARTNER “I LOVE YOU” (WITHOUT A WORD) BY DOING ANY OF THESE THINGS…

1. Leave a note

Before you dash off into your day, scrawl a quick "Sleep well!" and slip it on your partner's pillow. When they find it at bedtime, they'll know you were thinking of them in the morning. Similarly, if you're traveling, drop a postcard in the mail. You can say something as uncomplicated as "Thinking of you" or "Wish you were here," or you can write a paragraph about your trip. It's an easy way to let your partner know you're thinking of them, and anything analog is romantic these days, because it takes extra work and feels special.

2. Prepare them food that they especially like.

I know. It may seem a bit silly to you, but the feeling is real. They might say that “Love makes the world go round,” but the truth is—it’s food.

Especially cinnamon rolls.

Preferably homemade and with extra cinnamon goo.

3. Do something unexpected

When it comes to the people we love, we get stuck in routines. That can be a good thing, but sometimes it helps to do something unexpected to shake up reality and remind them of how happy you are to have them in your life. Something unexpected requires thought, and when you put thought towards someone for no reason, that is a great way to show someone that you love them. Think big: a trip. Or, think smaller: doing their chores for them. It doesn’t matter as long as it is unexpected.

4. Make sure that their clothes are clean

Unless your significant other is actually insignificant to you, you would want their clothes smelling fresh for the next time of use. Washing, drying, ironing, putting them back in the closet. Fellas, sometimes you need to pull your finger out in this department, too.

5. Make them laugh

Nothing says "I love you" more than laughing at your partner's bad jokes, especially if you've heard them a hundred times before. Making your loved one laugh is also a wonderful way of displaying your feelings.

6. Send pictures 

If you have a full time job and a 30 minute commute each way, you’re spending more than a fourth of your year at work. That’s a long time to be away from someone you love. During a stressful day, it’s refreshing to have a reminder of who we’re doing it all for. Sending a picture of yourself to your partner at work is guaranteed to make their day a little brighter. Seeing you blowing a kiss or sending a loving wave will be one interruption from a busy day that your partner will cherish.

7. A warm welcome

Imagine it’s a dark, rainy day. Your partner just finished a hectic day at work. On the way to their car, they step in a puddle and soak their clothes. Then the traffic on their ride home is a congested, soggy mess. As they pull up to the house, would they rather see you waiting for them or a locked door? Obviously, they’d rather see you. If you greet them as they come home with a big smile and an even bigger hug, you can watch their stress melt away. Then you can start the rest of your evening with a much happier and refreshed partner. 

Sources:
https://www.bustle.com/articles/87488-10-little-ways-to-say-i-love-you-without-saying-it-because-sometimes-its-better-to
http://attractgetwomen.com/ways-to-tell-someone-you-love-them/
http://club31women.com/15-ways-to-say-you-love-him-without-ever-saying-a-word/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-fitness/201201/10-ways-say-i-love-you-without-saying-i-love-you
http://uptv.com/news/10-ways-to-say-i-love-you-without-saying-a-word/
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/10-ways-tell-partner-love-without-saying-word/
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Τετάρτη, 4 Ιανουαρίου 2017

Love and neurochemistry go hand in hand. brianwiese





You know the feeling: your heart’s beating faster, your pupils dilate, your palms are sweaty, and you’ve got a belly-full of butterflies. You’re in love and, yes, you’re “all shook up”. 

The euphoria of falling truly, madly, deeply in love is often likened to being high, and with good reason. Research shows that when you’re in love, you really are in a mind-altered state.

Admittedly, studying love has its challenges. A researcher trying to define love might tell you it’s “A cognitive-affective state characterised by intrusive and obsessive fantasising concerning reciprocity of amorant feelings by the object of amorance”. Recognise that? Me neither. 

It would be a brave (and likely-to-be-going-home-alone) Romeo who replied to his Juliet: “I reciprocate your amorant feelings”

But while researchers struggle to define love, scientific techniques can show us how the chemistry of your brain changes when there’s “chemistry” with the one you love.

During the heart-pounding excitement of new love, your brain releases lots of phenylethylamine (PEA). PEA functions like a natural amphetamine, so you really are high on love.

PEA triggers the release of two neurotransmitters: dopamine and norepinephrine. Dopamine is a vital part of the brain’s desire and reward system and is released in response to anything addictive, including cocaine, nicotine, and love. It triggers a rush of pleasure and so reinforces the behaviour that made you feel good. 

Whereas dopamine induces feelings of intense pleasure, norepinephrine is the culprit behind the sweaty palms, hyperventilation, and butterflies in the stomach. 

The final piece of love’s neurochemical puzzle is serotonin, a neurotransmitter linked with feelings of calmness and well-being. As serotonin regulates mood, low levels of serotonin lead to obsessive thinking, and are commonly found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder, and the newly in love.

The levels of preoccupation and infatuation we experience when falling in love are genuinely phenomenal. People report spending more than 85% of their waking hours musing about their new love.

So that obsessive checking to see whether he/she called (and then double-checking to make sure your phone’s really working)? Blame it on serotonin. 

Combine the effects of increased dopamine and norepinephrine, and reduced serotonin, and you’ll recognise all the symptoms of falling madly in love.

We all know drugs alter your perception, and PEA is no exception. PEA causes the newly-smitten to view the object of his or her affection through thoroughly-rose-coloured glasses. In this loved-up state we idealise our Prince or Princess Charming, magnifying their virtues and explaining away their failings.

This may help explain the oft-reported gap between your perception (“he really is the funniest, smartest, handsomest guy I’ve ever met”), and the puzzled looks of your family and friends.

PEA also encourages couples to idealise their relationship. You and your beloved may ecstatically exclaim you “understand each other completely” and have “never felt this way with anyone else before” – but if you want to be sure, you’ll have to wait until you come down from the high.

Because the effects of PEA wear off as time passes, infatuation tends to fade within 12-18 months. This is probably for the best – though new love is undoubtedly glorious, your body can’t maintain that state of heightened arousal and obsession indefinitely.

The good news is that, though infatuation may fizzle out, long-term romantic love still gives you a rewarding dose of dopamine. 

Recent research shows that the dopamine-related brain areas active in the newly-smitten are similarly active in the brains of long-term happily married couples. For these lucky folk, married an average of 21 years, the sight of their partner’s face still brings feelings of intense pleasure.

PEA isn’t only manufactured in the brain. Foods such as chocolate contain loads of it, giving the unlucky-in-love carte blanche to dive head-first into a box of truffles. 

Now I’m the first to admit it’s always the right time for chocolate, but if you’re after PEA, you’re looking in the wrong place. 

There’s more PEA in cheese and sausages than in chocolate, but they won’t help either. Any PEA you eat is metabolised so quickly that almost none of it makes it to your brain.

If you’re after a natural high, there really is nothing like love.

Annukka Lindell, Senior Lecturer, School of Psychological Science, La Trobe University

This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.
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Δευτέρα, 2 Ιανουαρίου 2017





Since guys are mainly physical types, meaning we pay probably too much attention to the way women look, it doesn’t mean girls the same way.

You may be looking dashing, with your perfect hair, sexy beard and masculine body, but do bear in mind you could still be lacking many things girls find attractive, or even worse, you might be possessing some of those idiosyncrasies which are rather repulsive to women.

It is crucial to understand what are those little things that put girls off, and act accordingly. Buckle up, this might be bumpy.

1. Lack Of Ambition

One of the leading deal breakers is definitely the notorious lack of ambition.

Sure, you don’t have to be a famous businessman worth millions of dollars or strive to become the next president of USA in order to attract a lady, but you simply need to have this little thing called ambition.

Not having a plan for your future or any goals for the kind of career you want to pursue is a major turn off.

2. Poor Hygiene

Bathe yourselves, guys. Not only will proper hygiene (including your teeth) keep your healthier and living longer, but you will be a lot more comfortable throughout your day and be much more attractive overall. Take care of the facial hair, get a haircut from time to time and please, please shower regularly

3. Being a mummy’s boy

There’s nothing less attractive than a 30+ year old man that looks to his mum for approval on his choices in women, underwear and everything in between. Just don’t be that guy. Women don’t want to be with that guy.

4. Not caring about your family and friends

It doesn’t matter if you treat her like a princess if you’re a constant douche to your family members. She’s going to know that sooner or later she’s going to be treated the same way and be turned off majorly.

This is the most important point. Take care thoroughly of your relations with other people, because the connections we build may be the most valuable experiences we have in our lives.

5. No sense of humor

When we’re laughing until we can barely breathe at something undeniably hilarious, it’s not very attractive when you sit there straight-faced and serious.  We like the guy who is intelligent enough to make us laugh until our ribs hurt and won’t give us an evil stare when we start breaking out into a giggle

6. The Beauty Queen

You should NEVER date a guy who takes longer than you to get ready, or one who has more beauty products than you for that matter! He takes 30 minutes in the shower (making life changing decisions and reflecting on life) , then another 15 brushing his teeth with three different toothpastes.. sensitive teeth, actual minty fresh, and then pearly whites.. not to mention another 20 minutes doing his hair, yes some guys DO use straighteners.. and a comb.. and hairspray.

7. Lack of Confidence

While unattainable goals, bragging and lying are bad enough, a lack of confidence in your abilities is the worst thing a woman can find out about a guy. If a guy cant show that hes going somewhere in his life or that he pushes himself to achieve substantial goals, hes never going to end up with the woman of his dreams.

8. Irresponsibility 

As women we ask ourselves questions about every man we consider giving the time of day. Could we see ourselves being with him for a minute, marrying him? We want to know if we decide to invest time and energy that you’re responsible. That you take care of your business, that you’ll be a blessing instead of just another burden in our lives. If you can’t ever seem to pay your bills but you have three flat screens in your Cadillac then it ain’t gon’ work!

Sources:
http://boredbug.com/things-women-find-incredibly-unattractive-men/2/
http://www.lifehack.org/411638/10-things-men-do-that-women-find-unattractive
http://www.mensmagazine.com/10-things-women-find-unattractive-in-men/
https://www.collegetimes.com/sex-dating/10-things-women-find-unattractive-men-74673
http://www.newslinq.com/things-women/
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Κυριακή, 1 Ιανουαρίου 2017





Relationships are like journeys, each vitally different from the next. Some relationship have very deeply connected partners and others have couples just moving with the motions of life. To make a relationship work, you must be willing to put in the time, effort and strength to make it work. Without these three things even the strongest love bonds cannot survive. Relationship experts and therapist have often differ on what ingredients make a relationship work. Some are sentimental leaning on true love, while others are more logical. However some general consensus has been found on the following five habits of deeply connected couples.

1. Respect & appreciation

Ensuring that you don’t take your partner for granted is vital and crucial dating advice. That even if your relationship has weathered the time, you must always endeavor to take care of your partner. You must also be willing to understand there point of view and in this way show a measure of respect to their sentiments and feelings.

2. Sharing intimate knowledge of yourself

Invite your partner to learn about your personal, private aspects of yourself. Intimate knowledge shared with a partner can include ‘shared secrets, interpersonal rituals, bodily information, awareness of personal vulnerability and shared memory of embarrassing situations.’

Deeply connected partners have a shared language of endearments for each other, special ways of touching each other that convey meaning or give pleasure to the other. Inside jokes, pet names, and playful teasing are ways that couples connect to each other on an intimate level.

3. Communication without words

You can’t talk when you are having lunch with your family. Couples who are deeply connected to each other can communicate non-verbally. That’s how they talk usually. They get to know if the other one’s feelings in this way. And this makes their relationship more special.

4. Silence says it all

You both don’t need to describe your feelings with words. Sometimes you are comfortable with the silence. It helps you feel each other’s presence and that’s what makes you feel safe. You allow yourself to feel the breeze or listen to some of your favorite tracks, but you both don’t need to speak every moment.

5. They ask: “How was your day?” 

They talk about the little things (and the not-so-little things, too). They share details about the hours and days they spend apart beyond just saying things were “good,” or work was “stressful.” They actually communicate about the daily minutiae of life, which makes way to communicate when more important things come up.

Sources:
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/5-habits-of-deeply-connected-couples/?c=VIRAL
http://whattheghanta.com/2016/05/5-intimate-habits-of-couples/
http://www.viralnovelty.net/5-habits-deeply-connected-couples/#
http://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2016/02/8-little-things-deeply-connected-couples-do-regularly/
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Σάββατο, 31 Δεκεμβρίου 2016


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As we are all well-aware, a relationship is a two-way street; there has to be a mutual and foundational understanding for the entire thing to work out. If this foundational mutuality does not exist, the relationship will likely deteriorate to a point where it is beyond repair.

Perhaps the most difficult scenario is when one person in the relationship is unable to make things work despite all their best efforts. Understandably, this person will often safeguard their emotions by unconsciously enabling denial. “Ah, it’s only temporary” or “He/She will come around.” This is not always the case, however, which is the point of this article.

We’ll discuss a number of signs – 10 to be exact – that may indicate that your partner isn’t interested anymore.

Here they are, in no particular order.

1. They Stop Asking You Out

If they stop asking you out, it’s a sign that something about you just didn’t light their fire. In most cases, they didn’t feel the attraction they needed to give them that push to pursue you. You can take your chances and ask them out instead. They might say yes just to get a free meal, but if they are not blowing up your phone trying to see you again, then you already know they are just not that attracted to you.

2. They Never Get Jealous

Everyone gets jealous at times, especially someone  who is really interested in you. If the guy/girl you like doesn’t even bat an eye when you show up to a party with another guy/girl, he/she is not attracted to you. Stop trying to make them jealous, because they just doesn’t care.

3. They Seem To Change You...For The Worse

It’s not uncommon for someone on the receiving end of a disinterested person’s mischiefs to feel changed. As a result, you may find that you smile less, are more lethargic, and so on. A very unfortunate realization, indeed.

4. They Have Stopped Saying "I Love You"

A guy and a girl usually start saying "I love you" to each other once they move past the first phase of dating. If your relationship developed into the "I love you" stage a long time ago, there is no reason why they should suddenly feel averse to saying these three beautiful words to you. As cheesy as it sounds, if they stop saying them, it is a strong sign that that they are not as into you as they were before.

5. They Get Angry and Lose Their Cool without Any Reason

People lose their tempers for any number of reasons, including doing poorly at school, having rough times at work, feeling bullied, or going through family problems.

If your partner seems to be edgy all the time and loses his temper at non-issues, try to find out the reason for his anger. If you can't seem to pin-point any specific causes, his random flare-ups could simply mean that your partner is irritated by you and the relationship.

6.  You Are The Last of Their Priority of The Day. 

They would only respond to your text message or call you during midnight when they are about to dose off and you have zero communication line with them during the day. They have regarded you as the least important person in their life now.

7. Availability

They are too busy to set aside time to spend with you; They have other things going on. They dont want to make plans more than a day out. You may be more of a convenience or a distraction than relationship material.

8. Attention

Do you feel like your partner is always distracted when they talk to you? That they don’t pay attention to what you say, or they have their mind on other things? It may just be a hectic time at work, or he may have someone else on his mind. Watch out for constant phone or email checking or talking excessively about a co worker or someone else he recently met- this may give you a clue as to who is occupying his mind!

9. No sexy time

What’s that you say? Oh noes. No sex or a decreased sex life is probably one of the foremost indicators of a breakup on the horizon. Your partner has had a significant decrease in their lovey dovey ways and their affection seems to be focused on other areas, such as that tub of Ben and Jerry’s and their Sunday night dates with Dexter. While at times a decreased sex life can just be part of life with other things getting in your way like work, if everything else is otherwise seemingly normal, you should be having sex. A lot.

10. Humor-less

Your laughter is dead. In fact, you can’t remember the last time your significant other made you laugh or snort milk out of your nose. Humor plays an important part of a relationship, and this isn’t even about actual humorous things, but the way it was translated at the time to you. Those quirky mannerisms or idiosyncrasies that seemed to be extremely funny that had you rolling over gasping for air is no more. It’s just not plain fun being with your partner anymore, and that is the biggest crime of all, aside from actually finding your girlfriend with a penis in her mouth that’s not yours.

Sources:
http://guyspeed.com/sex-dating-relationship-advice-guide/?trackback=tsmclip
https://pairedlife.com/problems/Signs-that-he-doesnt-love-you-anymore-Signs-your-boyfriend-doesnt-want-to-be-with-you-any-longer
http://www.thetalko.com/13-clear-signs-hes-not-attracted-to-you-anymore/
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/21-signs-partner-isnt-interested-anymore/
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Τρίτη, 27 Δεκεμβρίου 2016


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LOOKS ARE NOT EVERYTHING. THERE ARE ACTUALLY A FEW THINGS THAT CAN INSTANTLY TURN SOMEONE OFF, EVEN IF YOU’RE HIGHLY ATTRACTIVE.

There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself and putting an effort into your appearance. But if you think for one moment that all it takes to drive a man wild is to simply “look good,” you’ve got another thing coming.

10 Things That Instantly Turn Men Off Even If You’re Highly Attractive

1.When a woman gets ridiculously drunk, sloppy, and downright mean.

2.When a woman checks out every other guy that walks past.

3.When a woman needs the most expensive wine, clothes, and pocketbooks in order to be happy.

4.When a woman stays in her pajamas and robe all day.

5.When a woman is clingy

6.When a woman compares him to other men.

7.When a woman is cold and inconsiderate

8.When a woman belittles his friends

9. When a woman shares too many intimate details.

10.When a woman can’t hold a conversation with him.. 

Sources:
http://iheartintelligence.com/2016/12/23/things-turn-men-off/?c=hp
http://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2016/11/33-things-that-automatically-turn-men-off-even-if-youre-extremely-attractive/
http://www.relrules.com/things-that-automatically-turn-men-off/3/
http://mamiverse.com/what-turns-men-off-33733/10/
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Δευτέρα, 26 Δεκεμβρίου 2016






Have you ever wondered what really makes you healthy? Is it the vitamins you take or the food you eat? Is it the exercise you do and the medical care you get? All of these things are surely important. But I believe there is a hidden dimension to your health that you may have overlooked or ignored: your friendships.

Friendships can make the difference between enjoying a long healthy life and just suffering through it.

Getting and staying healthy may very well depend on the quality, quantity, and resiliency of your friendships.

Is Friendship the Forgotten Key to Health?

Scientists have been trying to unravel how our friendships affect our health for a long time.
Lisa Rankin, MD, in her groundbreaking work Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself, states:

“When you feel loved, supported, and nurtured in a relationship, your mind experiences fewer stress responses and elicits more relaxation responses, and the physiology of the body responds accordingly.”

She goes on to explain how this nurturing extends even to the doctor/patient relationship:

“When a patient who imbues the physician with positive meaning feels tended, trusting, reassured, and nurtured, the stress response is aborted. The relaxation response is induced. The patient starts to get better right away.”

New research is revealing that your social network may be as important to your health as diet and exercise. Harris and Yang, et al,  published a study this year in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences that reviewed 20 years of research in the area of social relationships, mortality, and health. This is the first study to link strong social relationships with specific health measures through the entire life cycle.

The findings are revealing and important to understand:

  • A person’s social network is an important independent health factor
  • In adolescents and older adults it was the quantity of connections that counted
  • For middle aged adults it was the quality of social relationships that mattered most
  • Social connectedness protected against abdominal obesity
  • Social isolation increased levels of systemic inflammation
  • In older adults, weaker social ties were more harmful than either hypertension or diabetes.

Overall, people with strong social bonds were found to be healthier than those who were more isolated. Social isolation induces strong stress reactions that increase systemic inflammation and levels of stress hormones, and it reduces mental function, eventually leading to ill health, disease, and decreased lifespan.

Family And Longevity?

Surprisingly, research is showing that close relationships with relatives and children have almost no effect on longevity. One such study, led by Lynne C. Giles, et al, of the Centre for Ageing Studies at Flinders University, Australia, showed little impact on mortality from close family ties but did find such links with friendships.

Why is this so? The researchers believe it’s likely that friends stop people from indulging in bad habits such as smoking and drinking. Friendships may help ward off depression while raising self-esteem and provide much needed social support during stressful times.

How Can You Strengthen Your Friendships and Social Bonds?

I know making and keeping friends is sometimes easier said than done. Maintaining social networks and making new friends is not always easy, especially as you get older. Diana Vilbert of Care2.com gives a few helpful suggestions that can serve as guideposts when connecting with friends. To summarize:

  • Make the time. Life can get very busy and make it difficult to stay in touch. Put aside some time to renew friendships and make that phone call you’ve been meaning to make.
  • Adapt to your friends’ lives. People’s lives change. They get married, have kids, move away. Don’t let these things end a good relationship. Adapt to the changes. Be creative in how you can get together with people you enjoy.
  • Volunteer. A great way to make new friends and start a new social network is to volunteer your services. You will meet people with similar values and interests.
  • Show up for the big events. When life’s big events occur, both negative and positive, a true friend shows up. Being physically present, whether it be for a wedding or a funeral, can deepen and cement a friendship.
  • Confide in an acquaintance. If you want to take a casual-relationship to the next level, confide something personal to that person. It will make them feel they are of value to you.

Conclusion

I’m sure you constantly hear about the value of exercise and diet in combatting disease and promoting good health. These are valuable things and should be pursued. But don’t forget that your friendships are a hidden treasure for your health. Friendships may be as valuable to your health as any diet or exercise regimen, so take the time to nurture them. Doing so can add many healthy years to your life. Besides, having good friends and being a good one in turn can make your life a hell of a lot more fun.

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Παρασκευή, 23 Δεκεμβρίου 2016





Men and women show that they care in very different ways. If a man is willing to publicly display his love for a woman, he is not messing around. It takes extreme vulnerability for a man to show and express exactly what he is feeling on such a large scale.

There are at least 8 things a man will only do for the woman he sincerely loves.

1. He Protects Her 

A man places himself between danger and that which he loves. He shields his woman not just from physical harm, but also emotional traumas. Always vigilant and always on guard, he is ready at a moment’s notice to place himself in harm’s way. He does not raise his hands against those he loves. It would never cross his mind.

2. He Tries To Be A Better Person

Love can make even the sloppiest of guys attempt to get their act together. It’s not even so much that he wants to flatter his partner with a false impression. He just holds them in such high regard that he won’t subject them to anything but his best possible self.

In other words, when a man is in love he genuinely wants to become a better person. He knows his partner deserves that much.

3. He remembers things big and small. 

He'll make you cry tears of happiness because he plans a huge birthday surprise, of course, but he'll also remember your favorite wine in case of emergencies (like when you've had a tough day at work or your entire family is driving you mad).

4. He’s Honest

There’s no shortage of men out there who can put on a really convincing mask. They’ll say all the right things to make themselves appear like the ‘perfect man.’

But when a man truly loves a woman, that’s not even an option. He’s not going to just ‘play along’ on dates with the intention of getting in her pants. He’ll stand by his values, even if she tugs him in the opposite direction.

5. He will help you

Offer to help you with something just to spend more time with you.

6. He surprises you with gifts

Surprise you with something little to show how much he thinks about you.

7. He' ll say I love you...and actually mean it

Anyone can say “I love you,” but actually meaning it is a whole other ball game. The hard part is discerning when a man is being genuine and not just running game. If the L-word gets uttered during the throes of passion, then it should be taken with a grain of salt, as good sex will make people say and do almost anything. The true test of a man’s feelings comes from his actions.

Not everyone is honorable. There are individuals that will claim they love you until they’re blue in the face, yet these are the ones who are continually cheating and lying. As I’ve said before, words have no real value without meaning.

Man in love with a woman will not only say it but he will show it. He’ll call you when he misses you. He’ll listen to you when you’re talking. He’ll make sacrifices to make you happy. He’ll be emotionally available and willing to express himself with you. He’ll mean what he says and do whatever it takes to make you feel like the most important woman in the world.

8. He ll fight for the woman he loves 

No guy is fighting for a hookup. He’ll know when a sexual fling is temporary, and no one — guy or girl — is going to fight for something temporary. If a guy loves you, he will fight for you. He will stick up for you to his friends, to YOUR friends, to his family and to YOUR family; he won’t let anyone cut you down because he physically and emotionally can’t. It will be like a reflex to him, and he won’t even think twice about going to bat for you. A man who truly loves you won’t only fight on your behalf — he’ll fight FOR you and fight to keep you.

Sources:
http://elitedaily.com/dating/things-guys-do-for-women-they-love/1432948/
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/mans-true-love-acts/
https://www.davidwolfe.com/5-things-men-do-in-love/
http://www.glamour.com/story/8-things-all-men-do-when-theyre-in-love-with-you
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