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Really like this quote I found a few days ago on Facebook – ”Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up”. Can you imagine how difference this world would be if we all followed this rule?
We have so many people that fill our lives and we too, fill the lives of many people. How many of these people including yourself would you call extraordinary? What makes them so? What’s so special about them that makes them do things differently? Let’s look at 4 things they do and give to others.
1. Reliable, sincere support
Caring for others is the closest thing to being cared for. We all live in this world of happiness and torment. Close your eyes and think of the people who have had a positive effect on your life. The ones who have truly made a difference in your life. You will see what sets them apart from the rest. These are not the people who tried to solve your problems or give you all the right answers. These are the ones who sat by you quietly when you needed to think, lent you their strong shoulder when you needed to cry and who stood by you even with no answers. Be this very person to those around you. This is extraordinary.
2. Undivided attention and focus
When you are able to make time for someone, especially when it is inconvenient, is another greatness. You don’t have to shout out loud or say ‘I love you’ every day to tell someone how much you care. Simply show them. Nothing can be appreciated more in a relationship than your sincere and focussed attention. We breathe life into one another when we pay attention, we make a relationship flourish and we grow stronger. Today and every day, give someone the gift of YOU – your undivided time and attention and kindness. This is one gift that can never break or get lost and it is also one that will forever be remembered.
3. A voice of inspiration and positivity
When you are able to remain positive when negativity surrounds you, you uplift everyone around you to your level of thought. When someone is frowning, lend him your smile. When your child is upset with the stress of studies, lend her some inspiration. Give the present of your kind words to someone who is having a bad day. Every time kind words are spoken, something magical is created. Forever be conscious of what you say and how you say it, no matter who you are saying it to. Always use words that encourage, inspire and appreciate. Always use words to uplift.
4. Gentleness and consideration
We were always taught as children to say things nicely to our siblings and if we have nothing nice to say, we should keep quiet. I look at it now as a lesson in being gentle and compassionate to those around us. We cannot reserve kindness and compassion to family and friends. Do we speak to the house help, driver and waiter of a café in the same way? How far you will go in life will always depend on how you helped the young, respected the aged, showed tenderness with the hurt, supported the thriving ones, and were tolerant of the weaker ones around you. Remember that we wear many hats throughout our lives, and at some point we would have been these people too.
The only small difference between ordinary people and extraordinary people is the word ‘extra’. If you can go out of your way and do something nice for the people around you, you are getting to be extraordinary. When you do something for someone who can never repay you, that’s extraordinary.