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Δευτέρα, 16 Ιανουαρίου 2017

by Ginny Marston,

As a nurse and an Empath, I’ve found that I was constantly feeling drained, having mood changes based on those around me, as well as the need to stop watching and reading about anything negative, including the news. It wasn’t until I discovered how to protect myself that I was able to live my life as an Empath without negative consequences.

6 Ways To Protect Yourself As An Empath

Here is what I found worked best for me:

1. Meditate – I meditate at least once a day; it is my ‘me’ time. Time to clear my head and release others emotions that I have retained and that had continued to stay with me through the day.

2. Crystals – Carrying crystals that protect you from the negative energy such as, Black Tourmaline, Black Obsidian, or Black Onyx. I carry one in my purse as well as have one at my bedside. Just make sure you cleanse your crystals once you have them. Or, if it’s easier, you can buy a Empath protection piece of jewelry.

3. Globe of Light – Each morning I envision myself being covered by a globe or white light of energy that covers my body, like a big bubble, and ask that no negative entities or energy may enter my “bubble”.

4. Salt baths – Put Pink Himalayan Salt in a bath, or try my recipe for a Himalayan salt scrub in the shower. Salt has so many amazing healing properties.

5. Singing – Put on your favorite songs and sing along. Singing has been known to raise your frequency repelling negative energy.

6. Take care of your body – Yes, this is a big one. Make sure you are eating healthy, avoid caffeine, and take time to take care of you. We spend so much time taking care of others we can easily forget about ourselves.

Being an Empath is a great gift; we were born for the path we are on and to make a difference in this world. There is even research that shows that an Empath’s brain responds to certain situations or triggers emotions and have found that 20% of the population are genetically predisposed to be more aware and empathic. You are not alone, as many of us are on the same journey with you. Use your gift for your own good and the good of others.

About the Author: Hello, my name is Ginny, author at I am originally from Long Island, NY but now live in beautiful Florida. I am a Registered Nurse, a healer by nature. Having worked in trauma, I have been with those at the time of passing as well as given comfort to their families. As a child and teen I exhibited special gifts but they faded as my life journey went to raising a family and having a career. It wasn’t until my Grandmother, and then Father, passed that I yearned to be able to see and speak to them to ensure they were at peace and to tell them the things that I wished I had when they were here on Earth. On October 10, 2016, I tragically lost my youngest daughter, Christina. This led me to ‘go down the rabbit hole’ with my grief, pain, and the empty place in my heart only Christina could fill. The note that I laid with her was “You will never be alone as at the time of your death a piece of my heart died with you.” Many of my spiritual friends began to reach out to me, I began to look for signs she was still here with us, and channeled my energy to go back in time to renew my gifts so that I could not only speak with Christina, as I had with my other passed love ones, but to also learn more about her new journey. Christina’s and my journey are just beginning and I hope to share not only my journey with her but how you too can connect with your loved one. Follow MetaMissy on Facebook!
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Πέμπτη, 12 Ιανουαρίου 2017

Between friends from school, friends from work, childhood friends and friends on social media, it can be difficult to determine who your true friends are. The people you thought were your friends often end up disappointing you, and the old friend you left behind may have been the one you should’ve stuck by.

If you’re wondering whether or not your friendships are authentic, here are seven signs of a true friendship:

1. They Accept Everything About You

True friends love you for who you are, despite your flaws. They don’t want to change anything about you. Instead, they embrace your quirks and bring out the best in you. They may not always agree with you, but they always respect your opinion. A true friend sees the positive things about you, when you aren’t able to see them yourself.

2. They Make You Happier

After spending time with a true friend, you’ll feel happy, rejuvenated and more positive. A true friend will never bring you down. They’ll be a constant light for you, especially when you need it the most.

3. They Tell You the Truth

A true friend doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear. They tell you the truth, even if it hurts a little, because they want the best for you. A true friend will never criticize you or put you down, but they’ll tell it like it is to help you make the right choices.

4. They Listen To You

A true friend listens to you. You can express your feelings and talk about your experiences - good and bad - with a true friend. Likewise, if you have a true friendship with someone, you will allow your friend to talk with you without interrupting when he has a problem, good news or an experience to share.

5. Τhey Support You

True friendships involve two people who support each other no matter what. It can be difficult to know how to help a friend who's facing a difficult situation, though. Call him, even if you don't think he will answer the phone, and leave an encouraging message he can listen to later. Send an inspirational card to your friend in the mail or send him an email letting him know that you're there for him if he needs anything.

6. They forgive Quickly

Friends don’t bring up old dirt and gossip about each other. They forgive and seek forgiveness with transparency and humility. There can be no grudges for a relationship to thrive.

7. They Make You a Better Person

A real friend brings out the best in you, never trying to hold you down in order to make themselves look better.

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Τετάρτη, 11 Ιανουαρίου 2017


There are things which are always best kept to yourself. Telling about them, even on Facebook — however much you want to — can’t bring you anything good.

Here is a list of 5 of the most crucial things we should always, I mean always, keep secret.

1. Your plans and your goals in life.

If you share these, those around you will confuse you by offering other points of view, while you are surely moving towards your goals. We are all different from each other, and you won't get the same advice from everybody. Don't listen to everybody else and don't let your courage to be worn down. Walk towards your goals and know what you are doing; everybody will hear about your success, anyways.

2. Wealth

You might be wearing a Lacoste wrist watch or donning ray ban shades, it’s best if you keep the secrets of your family wealth to yourself. You don’t want to be the one giving treats to your friends every now and then. Nor will you want to seek unwanted attention from strangers. What if you get robbed on the street or burglars get in your house. You have an expensive smartphone and flash it around in your circle. It feels good to have repute in your group but it is not wise to make others aware of your wealth. Money can corrupt friends and relatives. Millions of people around the world dream of making lots of money. If you have it, feel good, don’t go and brag about it. People are going to be jealous then they will be around you all day.

3. Your Lifestyle

Certain details about your personality such as; your sex life, religious life, overcoming a bad habit, etc. are not of any concerns to the world. It’s not worth it to put your emotional conditions out to all. Expecting appraisals from people is not necessary

4. Do not boast about generosity and benevolence

The biggest advantage of doing something good is being silent about it. When someone finds out, they will appreciate that you are doing it from the heart. So, when you brag, you come out as arrogant. You know what kind of opinions circulate around the stars who have gold on when posing for pictures with poor skinny children. Exactly.

5. Do not talk about family problems everywhere

If you have problems in a relationship or family, it is best to talk about it with people concerned – a partner or family member. If you do not see the possibility of a dialogue, ask for help from a professional or a trusted friend. Resolving the problem will not be helped by spreading rumors and telling stories all over.

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Τρίτη, 10 Ιανουαρίου 2017

We are all unique, yet we live in a time where there has never been more pressure to become a copy. TV shows, movies, tabloids, advertisements, social media feeds, and even peers consistently bombard us with who is doing it “right,” and what we need to be doing to have it in our life.

Because of this, authenticity has become a rare experience. If we aren’t scared to be who we truly are — out of a fear of it not being accepted — we’re openly changing ourselves because an authority figure has made it seem more appealing.

While the process of being authentic is something that I still struggle with on occasion, my radar at identifying when someone is or isn’t being their true self has never been sharper. Here are 8 qualities I’ve identified as very common among some of the most authentic people I’ve come to know in my life:

1. Know How To Say “No”

While there is a wonderful power to be found in saying “yes,” there is an even more remarkable strength found in the ability to say “no.” It seems like common sense, but it’s something than more of us struggle with than we could ever imagine.

It is only by saying “no” when something that doesn’t align with our authentic self is presented to us that we are able to stay authentic. It’s not that we become incapable of compromise or closed off to new experiences, it’s that we ensure we don’t become a doormat to other people’s demands and expectations.

2. Accept & Learn From Haters

Even if we made a conscious effort to be as socially acceptable as possible (which is completely non-authentic), there are always going to be people that seemingly dislike us.

Rather than be rattled by these apparent haters, some of the most authentic people I know not only accept and understand their existence, but they also look for ways to learn from their criticism.

3. Not Afraid To Be Open & Honest

While there are certain parts of our private lives that should remain private, there is also a great power to be found in a willingness to open up about them. Some of the most authentic people I know not only openly delve into their firsthand experiences, but they also respond to you in an honest way.

If some tough love is what you need to hear, they aren’t afraid to give it to you, even if it requires them digging into the depths of their own experience.

4. Great Listeners

This certainly goes hand in hand with number three, as part of what makes the authentic among us that way is that they actually listen to what others have to say. This is how they are able to deliver effective feedback, learn from others, and fully process everything that is thrown their way.

When questioning whether or not you are a great listener, the best gauge is to notice how often you find yourself thinking of your next response when someone else is talking to you.

5. Open To Change

Being open to change may seem counterintuitive to staying authentic but it’s actually completely necessary. No one in this world holds the exact same views and belief systems throughout their entire life, so why would those of us that are authentic be any different?

Some of the most genuine people I know, not only are open to change, but are also so connected to themselves that they know when the change is and isn’t appropriate for them.

6. Value Their Time

While some may argue that money is the most precious resource in this world, the fact that we need time to produce money puts it in the resource captain seat. Those that are and stay authentic recognize the value in their time and choose to spend it wisely.

They make time for the things that are the most important to them, even if they don’t necessarily make the most logical sense to an analytical mind. They also choose to only give their time when it feels right rather than simply because it is available.

7. Do A Lot of Personal Work

Whether it be investing in a personal development course, reading a self-help book, or even dedicating to a wellness practice like meditation, the world’s most authentic tend to commit regular time to their own well-being.

There are so many wonderful resources in this world to learn and grow from, and committing time to them can be a key to not only being but also staying authentic.

8. Selectively Lazy

Chances are, when you think of laziness you have one of two perspectives towards it: (1) you accept and indulge in it as a right, (2) you vilify it and feel guilty when being it.

Being lazy is a part of life, but I find those who are authentic not only recognize that, but they also selectively choose when they are going to be. They find the drive and determination required to accomplish things when needed, and also allow themselves to take a break when it feels like the right thing to do.

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An independent woman is a woman who can’t be stopped. When she makes up her mind about something, no one can get in her way. An independent woman knows that she is strong, capable and deserving, and she’s willing to work hard to achieve her goals. Many people struggle with true independence. It can be a difficult trait to learn. Here are ten things that independent women do differently:

1. They are Not Afraid of Doing Things Alone..

There’s no need for you to pester you friends on a group chat, hoping someone else will feign interest in going. You already bought your single ticket to Fifty Shades of Grey on Fandango and don’t need anyone else to share that popcorn with. In fact, she kind of prefers seeing movies by yourself. That way, you can form your own opinion about it and not just chat about how attractive Jamie Dornan is on the car ride home.

2. They Dont Live on Social Media

No one will see a status like “Finally put the kids to sleep! Now time for a well deserved glass of wine!” on your page. You’ll put the kids to bed, have your wine and require no validation in doing so. You’re not about showboating your achievements, since you don’t judge your life worth on likes and comments.

3. They Don’t Complain

An independent woman knows that complaining doesn’t solve problems. She doesn’t waste her time moping around or feeling sorry for herself when things aren’t going her way. If there’s a problem in front of her, she figures out a way to fix it.

4. They Are Confident

Confidence is a trait that many women struggle with. But when a woman makes her mind up to be independent and fully rely on herself, confidence follows. An independent woman knows that she is in control of her happiness and her future.

5. They Aren’t Afraid To Take Risks

While smart, an independent woman isn’t afraid to take a risk when necessary. She’ll never rush into a dangerous situation, but she’ll weigh her options and make a decision. If it’s something a little scary that may pay off in the end, she takes a deep breath and goes for it.

6. They Are Honest

An independent woman is respectful but honest. She won’t beat around the bush or sugarcoat things. If something needs to be said, she has no problem saying it. She is strong in her beliefs and her morals, and she will stand up and speak when needed..

7. They Exercise

A study conducted at the Eastern Ontario Research Institute found that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more competent socially, academically, and athletically. They also rated their body image and self-esteem higher.

Best of all, rather than the physical changes in their bodies being responsible for the uptick in confidence, it was the immediate, endorphin-fueled positivity from exercise that made all the difference

8. They Listen More than They Speak

People with confidence listen more than they speak because they don’t feel as though they have anything to prove. Confident people know that by actively listening and paying attention to others, they are much more likely to learn and grow.

Instead of seeing interactions as opportunities to prove themselves to others, they focus on the interaction itself, because they know that this is a far more enjoyable and productive approach to people.

9. They Listen More than They Speak

People with confidence listen more than they speak because they don’t feel as though they have anything to prove. Confident people know that by actively listening and paying attention to others, they are much more likely to learn and grow.

Instead of seeing interactions as opportunities to prove themselves to others, they focus on the interaction itself, because they know that this is a far more enjoyable and productive approach to people.

10. They Don’t Pass Judgment

Confident people don’t pass judgment on others because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don’t need to take other people down a notch in order to feel good about themselves.

Comparing yourself to other people is limiting. Confident people don’t waste time sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they measure up to everyone they meet.

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The subject of narcissism has intrigued people for centuries, but social scientists now claim that it has become a modern “epidemic”. So what is it, what has led to its increase, and is there anything we can do about it? 

In the beginning

The term narcissism originated more than 2,000 years ago, when Ovid wrote the legend of Narcissus. He tells the story of a beautiful Greek hunter who, one day, happens to see his reflection in a pool of water and falls in love with it. He becomes obsessed with its beauty, and is unable to leave his reflected image until he dies. After his death, the flower narcissus grew where he lay.

The concept of narcissism was popularised by the psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud through his work on the ego and its relationship to the outside world; this work became the starting point for many others developing theories on narcissism.

So when does it become a problem?

Narcissism lies on a continuum from healthy to pathological. Healthy narcissism is part of normal human functioning. It can represent healthy self-love and confidence that is based on real achievement, the ability to overcome setbacks and derive the support needed from social ties.

But narcissism becomes a problem when the individual becomes preoccupied with the self, needing excessive admiration and approval from others, while showing disregard for other people’s sensitivities. If the narcissist does not receive the attention desired, substance abuse and major depressive disorder can develop. 

Narcissists often portray an image of grandiosity or overconfidence to the world, but this is only to cover up deep feelings of insecurity and a fragile self-esteem that is easily bruised by the slightest criticism. Because of these traits, narcissists find themselves in shallow relationships that only serve to satisfy their constant need for attention. When narcissistic traits become so pronounced that they lead to impairment this can indicate the presence of narcissistic personality disorder. 

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders describes narcissistic personality disorder as “a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy that begins by early adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts”. People with narcissistic personality disorder show a grandiose sense of self-importance, are consumed by fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty or ideal love, and are extremely sensitive to criticism, among other things. 

Younger people and men seem to be most affected. The exact causes of narcissistic personality disorder are unknown, but childhood abuse and neglect may be possible factors involved in its formation. 

What has led to its increase?

In the clinical setting, about 2% to 16% of people suffer from this disorder, while in the general population, less than 1% of people are affected. Some suggest that narcissistic personality disorder is quite rare, but study estimates vary widely depending on sample sizes and the ways that narcissistic traits are assessed

Others have labelled narcissism a “modern epidemic”, pointing to the rapid change in society that occurred in industrial and post-industrial times as the cause. The past few decades have witnessed a societal shift from a commitment to the collective to a focus on the individual or the self. The self-esteem movement was an important turning point in this. It determined that self-esteem was the key to success in life. Educators and parents started telling their children how special and unique they are to make them feel more confident. Parents tried to “confer” self-esteem upon their children, rather than letting them achieve it through hard work.

The rise of individualism (with its focus on the self and inner feelings) and decline in social norms that accompanied the modernisation of society also meant that the community and the family were no longer able to provide the same support for individuals as they once did. And research has shown that being embedded in social networks – for example, being actively engaged in your community and connected with friends and family – has major health benefits

As the social fabric deteriorated, it became much harder to meet the basic need for meaningful connection. The question moved from what is best for other people and the family to what is best for me. The modernisation of society seemed to prize fame, wealth, celebrity above all else. All this, combined with the breakdown in social ties created an “empty self, shorn of social meaning”. 

The rise in technology and the development of hugely popular social networking sites, such as Facebook, further changed the way we spend our free time and communicate. Today, there are nearly 936m active Facebook users each day worldwide. Internet addiction is a new area of study in mental health and recent cross-sectional research shows that addiction to Facebook is strongly linked to narcissistic behaviour and low self-esteem

So what can we do about it?

Treatment for narcissistic personality disorder exists and this includes pharmacotherapy and psychotherapy. Meditation has also been shown to have positive effects on mental health. Further research, however, is needed on the effectiveness of various treatments. 

So what can we do about all this and how can we lead a happy and purposeful life? One of the largest studies on happiness was conducted by a group of Harvard researchers who followed a large cohort of people over a period of 75 years. What they discovered – unsurprisingly – was that fame and money were not the secrets to happiness. Rather, the most important thing in life and the greatest predictor of satisfaction was having strong and supportive relationships – essentially, that “the journey from immaturity to maturity is a sort of movement from narcissism to connection”. 

So maybe it’s time to take a break from that smartphone, shut off your computer and meet up with a friend or two. Maybe, just maybe, you might feel a little better – and boost your self-esteem.

This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.
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Δευτέρα, 9 Ιανουαρίου 2017


When the phrase ‘gentleman’ was first coined in the 12th Century, it referred to men born in a class of nobility. The gentlemen of that time were royals and valiant knights.

Of course, the concept of gentry has changed dramatically in the past several centuries. However, there are still some trademark characteristics – values, attitudes and behaviors that continue to separate gentleman from their less-amicable peers.

10 Things Gentlemen Do Differently

1. A gentleman always keeps a promise.

While some men make promises they cannot keep in an effort to gain affection, a gentleman knows what he can do and he commits to nothing more than that. Whether the promise is to his boss or a family member, it will be fulfilled.

2. A gentleman is honest.

If a gentleman makes a mistake, they will own up to it. If someone asks their opinion on something, they will give an honest answer.

That doesn’t mean they’ll do so without any tact. But you can be sure that gentlemen will give you a straight answer that is as close to the truth as a subjective human being can get.

3. They’re Respectful…To Everyone

A true gentleman, and gentlewoman for that matter, should be polite and respectful to everyone, regardless of gender. He or she shouldn’t be using it as a means of attraction.

4. On time

On time to a gentleman means 15 minutes early. He’d rather wait for you than have you wait for him.

5. Offer his jacket

If it is chilly outside, a gentleman will sacrifice his own comfort to ensure a woman is more comfortable.

6. He is Courteous

It seems like a small thing, but saying “please” and “thank you” to people shows courtesy and respect for others. It is a minor thing and costs you nothing, but can earn you valuable points with people.

7. Does Not Hit Women

A gentleman’s role is to protect women even at the cost of their own life. A gentleman never hurts a woman. The only exception to this is if a woman is trying to kill an innocent person. Outside of extreme circumstances, a man should never lay his hands on a woman in anger.

8. He is Polite – To Everyone

Again, politeness shouldn’t be used as a weapon for pants-dropping. A gentleman should be polite to everyone, with no ulterior motive.

9. He says “I'm sorry” 

Having the capability to say, “I'm sorry,” is one of the most overlooked qualities in both men and women. Apologies require a great deal of strength, and the human ego will make matters personally challenging. Part of becoming a gentleman is realizing that the man who can admit when he is wrong is no weaker than the man who never backs down.

10. He asks questions and doesn’t speak about himself 

Showing an interest in others is refreshing. A gentleman will look to inquire about those around him, especially a date, rather than preaching about himself. Asking questions will show a genuine curiosity in someone, the opposite of apathy. Gentlemen will look to keep their dates engaged, and speaking, as opposed to taking the risk of talking too much.

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Κυριακή, 8 Ιανουαρίου 2017

Empaths are affected by the energies of other people. With an innate ability to feel and perceive the emotions of others, they are highly sensitive, sometimes to an extreme.

Being an empath can cause someone to be naturally giving, spiritually-attuned, and an excellent listener. But it can also cause someone to feel overwhelmed, constantly fatigued, saddened, and lost. The dark sides of being an empath are rarely seen, but they’re important to understand, especially if you are in a relationship with an empath.

1. Constant Fatigue

The dark side of being an empath stems from having two constantly conflicting voices inside their head. It’s common for an empath to become overwhelmed from always feeling both the good and the bad, the negative and the positive. Consequently, empaths are very susceptible to negative energy. The intense way they feel this energy can confuse and sadden them, making them wonder why this energy even exists, if all it’s meant to do is hurt others. When they are surrounded by negativity, they can become overwhelmed and fatigued.

2. Carrying A Burden

Empaths know that their gift means they need to be selfless, which is often a heavy burden to carry. The dark side of being an empath comes from the fact that they must be willing to neglect their own body and mind for the sake of others. Neglecting yourself for a long period of time can cause you to feel lost and isolated. Many empaths end up needing to go on a soul-searching journey every few years in order to reconnect with their own body and soul.

3. Falling In Love

Just like everyone else, an empath dreams of falling love. The dark side stems from the fact that even if they do fall in love, they can never do so entirely. They aren’t capable of giving absolutely every ounce of their heart to someone else. If they did, the intensity of the passion may become too much to handle. Instead, they always keep a small part of themselves hidden away from the rest of the world. They constantly keep a guard up because it’s necessary, even when they desperately want to let it down.

4. Handling Emotions

The dark side of being an empath is the war that is constantly waged within. They try as hard as they can to fight the sadness, the darkness, and the pain they feel, in order not to let it bring them down into a spiral of self-destruction. They need to learn how to distinguish between their own emotions and false emotional energies. One way they keep their emotions in check is to find others who understand them, people who they can talk to that will truly listen.
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Σάββατο, 7 Ιανουαρίου 2017

How is it that the rich always seem to be getting richer, while the poor tend to stay poor? Some of it is certainly a result of the way our society works. Some people start off at an advantage, and others have more roadblocks to overcome. We all do the best we can with what we’ve got.

For some, though, their best is simply better than the rest of us.


Here are eight things that rich people do differently. These habits keep their cash flow both growing and safe:

1. They are passionate about their work

It is hard to go above and beyond if you do not love what you are doing. This is a recipe for burnout. Successful people are deeply invested in their line of work. They care about the outcome, and put their heart and soul into their business. This fuels the long hours and hard work that might hold others back.

2. They make a real difference.

The problem with today’s “change the world” entrepreneurial meme is that it’s grandiose and, ironically, a sort of narrow viewpoint of what it means to make a real difference. The vast majority of successful people I’ve known are relatively unknown and so are their accomplishments – except to their customers, employees, investors, and families. 

3. They don’t follow others.

What distinguishes their behavior from the pack is that they’re leaders of the pack. They don’t care how things are done and they have no patience for those who tell them how things should be done. They do things their way. The main thing they do differently is that they do things differently.

4. They focus on long-term financial goals.

Instead of just making money and spending it, they take the time to create financial plans which enable them to reach long-term goals, and then they stick to those plans.

5. They focus on long-term financial goals.

Instead of just making money and spending it, they take the time to create financial plans which enable them to reach long-term goals, and then they stick to those plans.

6. They do more than the minimun

Successful people do more than just show up to work, do their job and go home. They get up early and they stay later at work. They go above and beyond to achieve their goals.

7. They are Realistic Optimists

Most successful people will admit that optimism plays a very big role in becoming successful in life. What they might not tell you is that you have to be a realistic optimist i.e. think positive about achieving your goals but work extremely hard instead of relying on hope, fate, and luck. Successful people don’t underestimate the challenges that come between them and their goals. They will focus on what works and leave out what doesn’t after careful analysis.

8. Their Day Starts Early

This quality tops the list of the most important things successful people do differently from other people. It is important to note that most successful people start their day early and wake up between 4 and 7 am. Waking up early is important because it gives you more time to do whatever you have to do in order to achieve your goals. Your brain is also more active in the morning. If you wake up late like most people, you will most probably end up broke like most people.

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There is a lot of power to be had in positivity, yet many of us seem to love dwelling in the negative. We focus on what’s bothering us, what we wish we had, and how there is seemingly nothing we can do to change our circumstances.

Well here’s the good news: there is always something we can do. The challenging thing is that it’s up to us to find the motivation, strength, and faith (or anything else required) to do it. I truly believe that change starts within, and I need look no further than my own life to see concrete examples of how internal changes are the necessary starting point for both internal and external improvements.

Here are 8 simple (and sometimes commonsensical) exercises that can help you get out of a rut and stay on the positive side of the spectrum:

1. Meditate/ Quiet Your Mind Daily

I know that meditation gets thrown around a lot these days, but I swear it’s for a good reason. I added “Quiet Your Mind” to this exercise because that is the element of meditation that I personally feel is particularly important. We live in a world obsessed with distraction, so much so that many of us often freak out in anxiety or boredom within minutes of having any quiet time to ourselves.

It may seem scary or boring at first, but the more you practice it, the more likely you are to enjoy and even look forward to meditation. I find that through meditation you can assert control over your mind and the incessant thoughts that constantly demand your attention – you run the show here, not your thoughts – ultimately allowing you to dictate whether you operate in a positive frame of mind of not.

2. Get Enough Sleep

It’s hard to imagine classifying sleep as an exercise, but I’m pretty sure for all of us it’s the one that is mentally the easiest to commit to, yet many of us still struggle to value it. It’s while we sleep that our body rejuvenates and re-energizes itself from the trials and tribulations of the previous day. Without adequate rest it’s hard to imagine your body and mind will have much gusto to look at things as the glass half full.

The amount of sleep that we require is certainly arguable, but the best gauge is to observe your own body. Try different sleep patterns and amounts and see which cycle your body responds to best. Our busy lives may make getting enough sleep difficult to do at times, but it may just require being the “uncool” kid who calls it a night earlier than the rest, to make sure tomorrow isn’t a negative write-off.

3. Try Out Some Positive Affirmations

Believe me, I was – and at times still can be – as skeptical as anyone when it comes to the idea of saying positive affirmations, but I have to admit that in many instances they really have helped. Positive affirmations can take many forms, but in general they are the proclaiming of positive, good, or empowering thoughts to remind yourself of the better things in life and what you are capable of.

My mind will often try to make me feel like an idiot in the midst of doing them, but it’s that type of self-defeating mind story that I am trying to overcome in the first place, so f*$% it. As a great example, I’d like to share a video of actor Tyrese Gibson leading his adorable daughter through some positive affirmations

4. Opt To Eat As Healthy As Possible

This one certainly falls under the “common sense” bracket, but it’s worth mentioning nonetheless since it seems to be the one so many of us regularly neglect. Food is the fuel that drives us, and the kind of energy we need to stay awake and positive does not come from sugar and preservatives.

Much like when assessing the ideal sleep cycle for you, I encourage you to once again observe how your body feels after every meal you consume. You may be adjusted to experiencing the post-lunch-itis, but that doesn’t mean that it has to be there or is normal. Food, believe it or not, can actually help us feel better and more energized when chosen consciously.

5. Connect & Communicate With Other People

There are over 7 billion of us on this planet, yet many of us choose to spend the majority of our lives communicating with only ourselves and perhaps a handful of others. Face-to-face connection, especially when both parties choose to be present in the conversation, can be a wonderfully uplifting exercise to practice daily. We all have our own unique body of experience and have the potential to assist one another through tough times.

Find yourself surrounded by a bunch of Negative Nancies and Pessimistic Peters? Talk to someone you don’t know or even do a good deed for a stranger. There were a couple of times earlier this year where buying lunch for a homeless person was just the pick-me-up I needed to get me back on the right track.

6 . Journalling

I say the term journalling and I’m sure many of you immediately think, “Dear Diary, today Amanda looked at me and it made me feel special inside. I think I love her.” As much as this certainly constitutes a form of journalling, don’t let this be the reason you cast aside writing down your feelings, thoughts, and experiences.

Several other CE team members and I have made a habit out of regular journalling and have found that it contributes significantly to clarity, motivation, and positive action. The key is to journal without judgement. Start by just writing out anything that comes to mind. The more you get into the habit the more likely you are to use it in ways that can give you a greater appreciation for life.

7. Be Physically Active

For many of us that work an office job, the naturally occurring extent of  daily physical actively we engage in is the walk to and from our car in the parking lot. As you probably would guess, this isn’t exactly worth classifying as a healthy and active life.

As someone who has always lived a relatively active life, even more so in recent years, I find physical activity to be a wonderful way to help promote positive feelings. What I love about physical activity is that it engages you externally, often completely disengaging you from the internal ramble of your mind, which in most cases is the source or temptation for negative thoughts.

8. Make Time For The Things You Love

We all have things that we love to do. Whether they be as simple as spending time with pets or as specific as writing investigative journalism pieces, we all have passions. And guess what? Engaging these passions regularly is quite possibly the most powerful tool to both being positive and feeling good about yourself.

So what are you waiting for and what are you doing instead? Even if the majority of your day is filled with necessities such as work, school, and meal preparation, we all still have time to do at least some of the things we love.

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