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Πέμπτη, 23 Φεβρουαρίου 2017
Every once in a while, you come across a strong, independent woman who may give off an intimidating vibe. She just might be an alpha woman. Alpha women are confident, ambitious and they tell it like it is. They are used to taking charge but their power can end up being too intimidating for some, especially a romantic partner. For a significant other, it can be difficult to find a place in a relationship with an alpha woman. Here’s what an alpha woman needs to maintain a healthy, lasting relationship:

1. She Needs To Be Respected

An alpha woman will treat you with respect, and that’s what she’ll expect in return. She is confident enough to have respect for herself, and she won’t keep anyone in her life who looks down on her. She needs her partner to respect her decisions and to trust her.

2. She Needs To Be Challenged

An alpha woman needs excitement in a relationship. She needs a partner who will challenge her. She needs someone who isn’t afraid of a little friendly and harmless competition. An alpha woman’s partner needs to be able to hold their own.

3. She Needs Trust

They need to know that what they tell you in confidence will stay in that relationship vault. They need to be able to vulnerable and let their guard down once in a while. They need to trust someone not to stab them in the back for their own personal gain.

4. She Needs Honesty

All relationships need honesty, but a relationship with an alpha woman is less forgiving than others. If you lie once, they call it quits. This is probably because they know how valuable their time is, and won’t waste it on someone who isn’t a potential keeper.

5. She Needs To Be Able To Laugh

It’s true that alpha women work hard, but they like to play hard too. After an exhausting day, they need someone who can help to lighten their thoughts (and the mood). They need to be able to laugh, so if you can make them smile and forget about the worries of life for a bit, they’ll certainly want to keep you around.

6.She Needs A Safe Space. 

This may be the most important one. While every alpha woman you know is basically a machine who moves from one place to another, like a ninja who makes shit happen, there is going to come a time where that well-oiled machine breaks down.

6. She Needs Someone Who Can Keep Up

An alpha woman is often running at full speed. She has an agenda, she knows what needs to be done and she isn’t afraid of some hard work. She needs a partner who can keep up with her busy lifestyle, someone who isn’t afraid of an intense, high-pressure environment.

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An unhappy relationship, or one where a person doesn't feel loved and appreciated has been known to cause clinical depression and other mental health problems in people.

A bad relationship can have a detrimental effect not only on one’s mental health, but on physical health too. Just being in a relationship— unhappy or not, can sometimes put you at a higher tendency of developing lifestyle-related medical conditions and diseases, that single people are less likely to develop.

1. Your relationship can make you gain weight.

People in relationships tend to be lackadaisical about their health and fitness, putting them at a higher risk of developing obesity and unhealthy eating than singles.

2. It can slow down your rate of recovery.

The recovery period after major surgeries or treatment, is often long. It is recommended that this time in a place that is familiar and comfortable to the patient, preferably their own home, as this corresponds with a higher rate of recovery. However an unsatisfactory or loveless relationship slows down the recovery of the person.

3. It causes depression.

An unhappy relationship, or one where a person doesn’t feel loved and appreciated has been known to cause clinical depression and other mental health problems in people.

4. Hypertension is often caused by strife in relationships.

The kind of sedentary lifestyle most couples lead puts them at risk of developing conditions like hypertension, low or high blood pressure and increased cholesterol. Singles tend to lead fitter lives in comparison.

5. Stress-related lifestyle diseases.

Lifestyle diseases are often brought on by stress, and stressful relationship can be the leading cause of coronary problems, increased cholesterol levels, obesity and heart disease.

6. Mental health.

The impact of one’s love life, can be seen in the mental health department too. Conditions like obsessive compulsive disorder, low self esteem, sometimes even schizophrenia, are often brought on by unhappy or unhealthy relationships.

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Τετάρτη, 22 Φεβρουαρίου 2017

Those who keep a lid on their emotions understand the struggle of drowning in them. It’s not so much that you guard your feelings, it’s that you keep them to yourself until they eventually explode:

1. You’re always screaming internally…because screaming all those feels out in public is not only scary but it can cause a big scene.

2. You’re in tune with other people’s feelings…because you’re deep into yours. When your BFF laughs, you grin. When a stranger cries, you feel your own tears coming. Since you keep all that emotion inside, you drown in it.

3. Your response to horrible people is to smile…because you’re secretly imagining their death. Hey, what they don’t know won’t hurt them.

4. Keeping a lid on your feelings is a survival tactic. Your worst fear is someone using your vulnerability against you which is why you keep your emotions bottled up. It’s also why…

5. Your emotions are intense…because you’ve kept them in for so long, when they come out, they come out in a flood.

6. You hate crying…because crying can expose you to anyone who sees you in that state. You even hate how it feels: the tears that wet your cheeks, the lump in your throat, your lower chin trembling. You especially hate that critical look people give you before they ask are you crying?

7. You have concealed anxiety. It’s not that you hide your anxiety but you hide the symptoms like shaky breaths and sweaty palms. It’s hard to explain to others that you know what you’re afraid of is rather irrational, but you can’t help it. So you keep it concealed because it’s safer that way.

8. You’re an over-thinker…because of your intense anxieties, you become cautious of everything around you, analyzing things you’re not sure of to the T. You like to check your thoughts before you voice them.

9. When someone pisses you off…you don’t say anything until they’re gone and you’re free to rant about them to your BFF or on your blog. It’s because you’re not a fan of confrontation but of course, you’re not going to admit that out loud.

10. You have trouble speaking up…because you risk your feelings getting in the way of your voice. You don’t want to reveal too much information, but it also sucks keeping all you want to say in your mind.

11. You hate when people persistently ask you what’s wrong…because answering them can become complicated and you risk getting emotional. You don’t wanna seem cold but you also don’t want to be overbearing either.

12. You get pissed off at the world pretty easily. You always have those days where everyone from the delivery guy to the barista with the annoying eye roll is pissing you off. You find it pointless to explain your irritation because it’ll only make you seem like a debbie downer.

13. You’re very good at keeping a resting b*tch face…because you don’t want anyone to see all those waves of emotions pass through your face. But it can be a struggle because your b*tch face can also be an invitation for people to think there’s always something wrong with you.

14. You have a guarded heart…because your heart is so tender with emotions, you don’t want it to get in the wrong hands.

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Major depressive disorder is the leading cause of disability in the United States for ages 15-44. Depression affects more than 15 million American adults in a given year. It can cause you to feel hopeless, restless and have difficulty concentrating. People suffering from depression often experience difficulty sleeping, weight changes and loss of interest in hobbies and activities. If you have ever suffered from depression or know someone who has, you know how debilitating it can be.

Overcoming depression is never easy, but learning how to train your brain to avoid negative thoughts can help. Use these three steps to train your brain to stop depression:

1. Focus On The Future

Feelings of sadness often come from events that have happened in the past. In order to move forward, you must turn your attention to the future. Allowing the past to have a negative hold on you will impact your present and your future. As hard as it might be, you must tell yourself that reliving events from the past will continue to have a negative effect on your life. Find a way to make peace with the past and move on. You might not forget what happened, but you can tell yourself that you are brave enough to move forward, in order to make a better life for yourself.

2. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

With the popularity of social media, it seems that more and more people are comparing themselves to others. You might see someone else’s life and wish it was your own. You might be jealous of their looks, their possessions, their social status or their success. When you compare yourself to others, you are letting them steal your joy. You are making your own life seem unimportant or insignificant. Stop making comparisons. It’s important to know that you are unique and beautiful. You have your own things to offer to the world. If you need to delete your social media pages, do it. Don’t waste another minute feeling envious of someone else. Instead, work on making your own life more fulfilling.

3. Train Your Brain Not To Repress Thoughts And Feelings

Everyone has negative thoughts and feelings every once in a while. You might think that avoiding them can help you avoid depression, but the opposite is true. Research has shown that suppressing negative thoughts is actually associated with “obsessive thinking and emotional reactivity.” To avoid become depressed, learn to observe your negative thoughts and emotions as they happen. Train your brain to recognize them and tell yourself that a negative thought does not need to define you.


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While reasoning comes easy to highly intelligent people, most of us with a high IQ experience a degree of social apprehension, lack social skills, and are branded socially incapacitated geniuses. Here's why...

If ignorance is bliss, is intelligence a curse? Are there any downsides to being highly intelligent? Intellectual capabilities are by far the greatest of gifts that a human being can possess. But the reality is: some of us are born smarter than others; some of us have higher than normal intelligence; and some of us, who are highly intelligent, are cursed in many ways.

Most of us don’t know there’s a neurological correlation between being socially awkward and being highly intelligent. While reasoning comes easy to highly intelligent people, most of us with a high IQ experience a degree of social apprehension, lack social skills, and are branded socially incapacitated geniuses.

It’s not because highly intelligent people are social fools, but because they see the world on an entirely different level than the rest of us. People who are socially anxious are usually highly intelligent and vice versa. Here’s why being highly intelligent is both a blessing and a curse:

1. They overthink responses

Highly intelligent people have a keen eye for detail. They are overthinkers who constantly analyze everything happening in their life and beyond. They tend to ponder what they/others say/do and contemplate conclusions/solutions for a long time, which eventually interferes with their interpersonal relationships. By over-analyzing things, moreover, they distance themselves from mainstream conversations they think have little face value.

2. They constantly self-doubt

“The problem with today’s world is that while intelligent people are full of doubts, the stupid ones are very self-confident” — Charles Bukowski

As they possess a rather objective view, highly intelligent people are more self-conscious, have a higher degree of self-awareness, and constantly doubt themselves. Being hyper self-aware makes these individuals super conscious, critical, and judgmental in a social setting. They forget to go with the flow and get frustrated in social interactions.

3. They have high standards

Highly intelligent people know exactly what they want, what they talk, and what they do in every area of life. This is why they tend to have high expectations, both from themselves and from those around them. They know how to deal with logical situations, but social situations are not logical. When their expectations face the raw reality of life and people with average intelligence, they get anxious.

4. They detest small talk

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people” — Anonymous

Ordinary people gossip, laugh at each other, do stupid things for fun, and discuss mundane things like food, cosmetics, and soccer to keep a conversation going. Highly intelligent people find themselves out of place while socializing as they can’t summon up the enthusiasm to join in everyday conversations.

5. They are aware of your state of mind

Brianna Wiest, American writer and founder of Soul Anatomy, says “highly intelligent people are highly attuned to how someone is thinking, feeling or perceiving a situation, a little bit beyond what would be appropriate and healthy to function without over-thinking, worrying and trying to react to someone’s perceived state of mind, rather than the reality they are presenting”. As a result, all they can think about is how much they’d like to escape.

6. They suffer from general anxiety

Psychiatrists at SUNY Downstate Medical Centre in New York have found that higher levels of intelligence and increased levels of anxiety are linked. An anxious mind is constantly examining ideas, information, and experiences from multiple angles simultaneously. Thus, highly intelligent people find social engagement too overwhelming.

7. They are well-guarded

Highly intelligent people think analytically, even when it comes to things like interpersonal relationships. They have a harder time opening up because their analytical brain never stops reflecting back on past situations where they survived a not-so-pleasant experience.

8. They hide their vulnerabilities

Highly intelligent people learn from their mistakes and change their behavior in response to failures. However, this cautious attitude robs them of essential social skills. No one wants to interact with someone who is unwilling to share their experiences; someone who inadvertently sends a signal that they are cold or distant; someone who never failed.

9. They get obsessive

When highly intelligent people open up to topics that interest them, they become so heated and enthusiastic they tend to monopolize the conversation and appear as aggressively opinionated, know-it-all, and angry.

10. They can’t avoid conflict

Highly intelligent people often end up in conflict with others because they unintentionally begin correcting others; act as an overly argumentative debater, and start being intellectually competitive in social conversations. These people are so brainy and on a different wavelength that it interferes with their ability to relate to others.

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Δευτέρα, 20 Φεβρουαρίου 2017

One of the biggest and most common questions someone in a relationship asks themselves is if they are with the right person. While there are some signs that can help you figure that out, another question you should be asking yourself is if you’re getting what you deserve out of your relationship. It can be hard to let go when that person is the only thing you’ve known for a long time. But it’s important to know your worth and know when someone else isn’t seeing it. These are 12 signs that you might be settling for less than you deserve.

1. You Make Excuses For Their Actions And End Up Blaming Others.

When they do something that you or others find unsettling, are you making up an excuse for them? Or maybe you’re blaming yourself or others for their actions? If your partner does something that you find less than acceptable, you should be able to talk things out. Covering up for them solves nothing.

2. They Don’t Have Aspirations.

They don’t really plan for their own future let alone one including you. They are content not having aspirations and don’t understand when you want to go out and do things in the world. In holding themselves back, they end up holding you back and keep you from realizing your potential.

3. You Feel You Are Never A Priority.

If they have nothing else going on, then maybe they’ll think about you. They’ll come for you when they have the time or feel like it. Not because you are important in their life. The harsh reality is that you are filler for their time.

4. You Can Rarely Count On Them To Be There For You.

No matter what you’re doing or where you are, if they call or text, you will answer and you are ready to be with them. However, if you need them, you’ll be damned if they actually respond or have the time for you. They might even ask if it can wait. Of course people are busy and someone can’t always be free, but when it counts, is your partner there for you?

5. You Would Rather Not Talk To Them.

Maybe you’re not waiting for them. Maybe you’re hoping you DON’T hear from them. When you get a text from them, you aren’t excited and you hardly look forward to seeing them. You’re just coasting through your relationship almost waiting for it to fizzle out, but you think this is as good as it’s going to get.

6. You’re Always Waiting On Them.

You’re waiting for them to call or text or ask to hang out. You’re waiting for them to stop their bad habits or tell you they love you. You’re waiting for them to follow through on their promises or start taking care of you better. You’re waiting for the day you finally find the person you first fell for.

7. Small Annoyances Turn Into Fights.

The little things that you once could overlook or that didn’t even bother you are suddenly the root of your fights — and you fight often. You are often irritable with them, almost too often. You aren’t sure if you are really angry or if you’re just looking for some form of passion and emotion, so you lash out over anything.

8. You’re Staying Because You Don’t Want To Be Alone.

When you think about why you stay, you think, “Well…it’s better than being alone.” You are so afraid of what being on your own might hold for you so you stay somewhere you are unhappy and with someone who is no longer the stars in your sky. Being alone is a dirty thought, even though being alone could be the thing that saves you.

9. You Wish You Were More Like Other Couples.

When you look at other couples, you think to yourself, “I wish I had what they had.” You are waiting for things to get better, but they aren’t and you become more and more envious of what other people have. You might even sometimes wish you were on your own because that would be better than longing for your partner to be an active part of your relationship.

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