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Δευτέρα, 16 Ιανουαρίου 2017

by Ginny Marston,

As a nurse and an Empath, I’ve found that I was constantly feeling drained, having mood changes based on those around me, as well as the need to stop watching and reading about anything negative, including the news. It wasn’t until I discovered how to protect myself that I was able to live my life as an Empath without negative consequences.

6 Ways To Protect Yourself As An Empath

Here is what I found worked best for me:

1. Meditate – I meditate at least once a day; it is my ‘me’ time. Time to clear my head and release others emotions that I have retained and that had continued to stay with me through the day.

2. Crystals – Carrying crystals that protect you from the negative energy such as, Black Tourmaline, Black Obsidian, or Black Onyx. I carry one in my purse as well as have one at my bedside. Just make sure you cleanse your crystals once you have them. Or, if it’s easier, you can buy a Empath protection piece of jewelry.

3. Globe of Light – Each morning I envision myself being covered by a globe or white light of energy that covers my body, like a big bubble, and ask that no negative entities or energy may enter my “bubble”.

4. Salt baths – Put Pink Himalayan Salt in a bath, or try my recipe for a Himalayan salt scrub in the shower. Salt has so many amazing healing properties.

5. Singing – Put on your favorite songs and sing along. Singing has been known to raise your frequency repelling negative energy.

6. Take care of your body – Yes, this is a big one. Make sure you are eating healthy, avoid caffeine, and take time to take care of you. We spend so much time taking care of others we can easily forget about ourselves.

Being an Empath is a great gift; we were born for the path we are on and to make a difference in this world. There is even research that shows that an Empath’s brain responds to certain situations or triggers emotions and have found that 20% of the population are genetically predisposed to be more aware and empathic. You are not alone, as many of us are on the same journey with you. Use your gift for your own good and the good of others.

About the Author: Hello, my name is Ginny, author at I am originally from Long Island, NY but now live in beautiful Florida. I am a Registered Nurse, a healer by nature. Having worked in trauma, I have been with those at the time of passing as well as given comfort to their families. As a child and teen I exhibited special gifts but they faded as my life journey went to raising a family and having a career. It wasn’t until my Grandmother, and then Father, passed that I yearned to be able to see and speak to them to ensure they were at peace and to tell them the things that I wished I had when they were here on Earth. On October 10, 2016, I tragically lost my youngest daughter, Christina. This led me to ‘go down the rabbit hole’ with my grief, pain, and the empty place in my heart only Christina could fill. The note that I laid with her was “You will never be alone as at the time of your death a piece of my heart died with you.” Many of my spiritual friends began to reach out to me, I began to look for signs she was still here with us, and channeled my energy to go back in time to renew my gifts so that I could not only speak with Christina, as I had with my other passed love ones, but to also learn more about her new journey. Christina’s and my journey are just beginning and I hope to share not only my journey with her but how you too can connect with your loved one. Follow MetaMissy on Facebook!
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Πέμπτη, 12 Ιανουαρίου 2017

Between friends from school, friends from work, childhood friends and friends on social media, it can be difficult to determine who your true friends are. The people you thought were your friends often end up disappointing you, and the old friend you left behind may have been the one you should’ve stuck by.

If you’re wondering whether or not your friendships are authentic, here are seven signs of a true friendship:

1. They Accept Everything About You

True friends love you for who you are, despite your flaws. They don’t want to change anything about you. Instead, they embrace your quirks and bring out the best in you. They may not always agree with you, but they always respect your opinion. A true friend sees the positive things about you, when you aren’t able to see them yourself.

2. They Make You Happier

After spending time with a true friend, you’ll feel happy, rejuvenated and more positive. A true friend will never bring you down. They’ll be a constant light for you, especially when you need it the most.

3. They Tell You the Truth

A true friend doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear. They tell you the truth, even if it hurts a little, because they want the best for you. A true friend will never criticize you or put you down, but they’ll tell it like it is to help you make the right choices.

4. They Listen To You

A true friend listens to you. You can express your feelings and talk about your experiences - good and bad - with a true friend. Likewise, if you have a true friendship with someone, you will allow your friend to talk with you without interrupting when he has a problem, good news or an experience to share.

5. Τhey Support You

True friendships involve two people who support each other no matter what. It can be difficult to know how to help a friend who's facing a difficult situation, though. Call him, even if you don't think he will answer the phone, and leave an encouraging message he can listen to later. Send an inspirational card to your friend in the mail or send him an email letting him know that you're there for him if he needs anything.

6. They forgive Quickly

Friends don’t bring up old dirt and gossip about each other. They forgive and seek forgiveness with transparency and humility. There can be no grudges for a relationship to thrive.

7. They Make You a Better Person

A real friend brings out the best in you, never trying to hold you down in order to make themselves look better.

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Τετάρτη, 11 Ιανουαρίου 2017


There are things which are always best kept to yourself. Telling about them, even on Facebook — however much you want to — can’t bring you anything good.

Here is a list of 5 of the most crucial things we should always, I mean always, keep secret.

1. Your plans and your goals in life.

If you share these, those around you will confuse you by offering other points of view, while you are surely moving towards your goals. We are all different from each other, and you won't get the same advice from everybody. Don't listen to everybody else and don't let your courage to be worn down. Walk towards your goals and know what you are doing; everybody will hear about your success, anyways.

2. Wealth

You might be wearing a Lacoste wrist watch or donning ray ban shades, it’s best if you keep the secrets of your family wealth to yourself. You don’t want to be the one giving treats to your friends every now and then. Nor will you want to seek unwanted attention from strangers. What if you get robbed on the street or burglars get in your house. You have an expensive smartphone and flash it around in your circle. It feels good to have repute in your group but it is not wise to make others aware of your wealth. Money can corrupt friends and relatives. Millions of people around the world dream of making lots of money. If you have it, feel good, don’t go and brag about it. People are going to be jealous then they will be around you all day.

3. Your Lifestyle

Certain details about your personality such as; your sex life, religious life, overcoming a bad habit, etc. are not of any concerns to the world. It’s not worth it to put your emotional conditions out to all. Expecting appraisals from people is not necessary

4. Do not boast about generosity and benevolence

The biggest advantage of doing something good is being silent about it. When someone finds out, they will appreciate that you are doing it from the heart. So, when you brag, you come out as arrogant. You know what kind of opinions circulate around the stars who have gold on when posing for pictures with poor skinny children. Exactly.

5. Do not talk about family problems everywhere

If you have problems in a relationship or family, it is best to talk about it with people concerned – a partner or family member. If you do not see the possibility of a dialogue, ask for help from a professional or a trusted friend. Resolving the problem will not be helped by spreading rumors and telling stories all over.

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Τρίτη, 10 Ιανουαρίου 2017

We are all unique, yet we live in a time where there has never been more pressure to become a copy. TV shows, movies, tabloids, advertisements, social media feeds, and even peers consistently bombard us with who is doing it “right,” and what we need to be doing to have it in our life.

Because of this, authenticity has become a rare experience. If we aren’t scared to be who we truly are — out of a fear of it not being accepted — we’re openly changing ourselves because an authority figure has made it seem more appealing.

While the process of being authentic is something that I still struggle with on occasion, my radar at identifying when someone is or isn’t being their true self has never been sharper. Here are 8 qualities I’ve identified as very common among some of the most authentic people I’ve come to know in my life:

1. Know How To Say “No”

While there is a wonderful power to be found in saying “yes,” there is an even more remarkable strength found in the ability to say “no.” It seems like common sense, but it’s something than more of us struggle with than we could ever imagine.

It is only by saying “no” when something that doesn’t align with our authentic self is presented to us that we are able to stay authentic. It’s not that we become incapable of compromise or closed off to new experiences, it’s that we ensure we don’t become a doormat to other people’s demands and expectations.

2. Accept & Learn From Haters

Even if we made a conscious effort to be as socially acceptable as possible (which is completely non-authentic), there are always going to be people that seemingly dislike us.

Rather than be rattled by these apparent haters, some of the most authentic people I know not only accept and understand their existence, but they also look for ways to learn from their criticism.

3. Not Afraid To Be Open & Honest

While there are certain parts of our private lives that should remain private, there is also a great power to be found in a willingness to open up about them. Some of the most authentic people I know not only openly delve into their firsthand experiences, but they also respond to you in an honest way.

If some tough love is what you need to hear, they aren’t afraid to give it to you, even if it requires them digging into the depths of their own experience.

4. Great Listeners

This certainly goes hand in hand with number three, as part of what makes the authentic among us that way is that they actually listen to what others have to say. This is how they are able to deliver effective feedback, learn from others, and fully process everything that is thrown their way.

When questioning whether or not you are a great listener, the best gauge is to notice how often you find yourself thinking of your next response when someone else is talking to you.

5. Open To Change

Being open to change may seem counterintuitive to staying authentic but it’s actually completely necessary. No one in this world holds the exact same views and belief systems throughout their entire life, so why would those of us that are authentic be any different?

Some of the most genuine people I know, not only are open to change, but are also so connected to themselves that they know when the change is and isn’t appropriate for them.

6. Value Their Time

While some may argue that money is the most precious resource in this world, the fact that we need time to produce money puts it in the resource captain seat. Those that are and stay authentic recognize the value in their time and choose to spend it wisely.

They make time for the things that are the most important to them, even if they don’t necessarily make the most logical sense to an analytical mind. They also choose to only give their time when it feels right rather than simply because it is available.

7. Do A Lot of Personal Work

Whether it be investing in a personal development course, reading a self-help book, or even dedicating to a wellness practice like meditation, the world’s most authentic tend to commit regular time to their own well-being.

There are so many wonderful resources in this world to learn and grow from, and committing time to them can be a key to not only being but also staying authentic.

8. Selectively Lazy

Chances are, when you think of laziness you have one of two perspectives towards it: (1) you accept and indulge in it as a right, (2) you vilify it and feel guilty when being it.

Being lazy is a part of life, but I find those who are authentic not only recognize that, but they also selectively choose when they are going to be. They find the drive and determination required to accomplish things when needed, and also allow themselves to take a break when it feels like the right thing to do.

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An independent woman is a woman who can’t be stopped. When she makes up her mind about something, no one can get in her way. An independent woman knows that she is strong, capable and deserving, and she’s willing to work hard to achieve her goals. Many people struggle with true independence. It can be a difficult trait to learn. Here are ten things that independent women do differently:

1. They are Not Afraid of Doing Things Alone..

There’s no need for you to pester you friends on a group chat, hoping someone else will feign interest in going. You already bought your single ticket to Fifty Shades of Grey on Fandango and don’t need anyone else to share that popcorn with. In fact, she kind of prefers seeing movies by yourself. That way, you can form your own opinion about it and not just chat about how attractive Jamie Dornan is on the car ride home.

2. They Dont Live on Social Media

No one will see a status like “Finally put the kids to sleep! Now time for a well deserved glass of wine!” on your page. You’ll put the kids to bed, have your wine and require no validation in doing so. You’re not about showboating your achievements, since you don’t judge your life worth on likes and comments.

3. They Don’t Complain

An independent woman knows that complaining doesn’t solve problems. She doesn’t waste her time moping around or feeling sorry for herself when things aren’t going her way. If there’s a problem in front of her, she figures out a way to fix it.

4. They Are Confident

Confidence is a trait that many women struggle with. But when a woman makes her mind up to be independent and fully rely on herself, confidence follows. An independent woman knows that she is in control of her happiness and her future.

5. They Aren’t Afraid To Take Risks

While smart, an independent woman isn’t afraid to take a risk when necessary. She’ll never rush into a dangerous situation, but she’ll weigh her options and make a decision. If it’s something a little scary that may pay off in the end, she takes a deep breath and goes for it.

6. They Are Honest

An independent woman is respectful but honest. She won’t beat around the bush or sugarcoat things. If something needs to be said, she has no problem saying it. She is strong in her beliefs and her morals, and she will stand up and speak when needed..

7. They Exercise

A study conducted at the Eastern Ontario Research Institute found that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more competent socially, academically, and athletically. They also rated their body image and self-esteem higher.

Best of all, rather than the physical changes in their bodies being responsible for the uptick in confidence, it was the immediate, endorphin-fueled positivity from exercise that made all the difference

8. They Listen More than They Speak

People with confidence listen more than they speak because they don’t feel as though they have anything to prove. Confident people know that by actively listening and paying attention to others, they are much more likely to learn and grow.

Instead of seeing interactions as opportunities to prove themselves to others, they focus on the interaction itself, because they know that this is a far more enjoyable and productive approach to people.

9. They Listen More than They Speak

People with confidence listen more than they speak because they don’t feel as though they have anything to prove. Confident people know that by actively listening and paying attention to others, they are much more likely to learn and grow.

Instead of seeing interactions as opportunities to prove themselves to others, they focus on the interaction itself, because they know that this is a far more enjoyable and productive approach to people.

10. They Don’t Pass Judgment

Confident people don’t pass judgment on others because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don’t need to take other people down a notch in order to feel good about themselves.

Comparing yourself to other people is limiting. Confident people don’t waste time sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they measure up to everyone they meet.

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The subject of narcissism has intrigued people for centuries, but social scientists now claim that it has become a modern “epidemic”. So what is it, what has led to its increase, and is there anything we can do about it? 

In the beginning

The term narcissism originated more than 2,000 years ago, when Ovid wrote the legend of Narcissus. He tells the story of a beautiful Greek hunter who, one day, happens to see his reflection in a pool of water and falls in love with it. He becomes obsessed with its beauty, and is unable to leave his reflected image until he dies. After his death, the flower narcissus grew where he lay.

The concept of narcissism was popularised by the psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud through his work on the ego and its relationship to the outside world; this work became the starting point for many others developing theories on narcissism.

So when does it become a problem?

Narcissism lies on a continuum from healthy to pathological. Healthy narcissism is part of normal human functioning. It can represent healthy self-love and confidence that is based on real achievement, the ability to overcome setbacks and derive the support needed from social ties.

But narcissism becomes a problem when the individual becomes preoccupied with the self, needing excessive admiration and approval from others, while showing disregard for other people’s sensitivities. If the narcissist does not receive the attention desired, substance abuse and major depressive disorder can develop. 

Narcissists often portray an image of grandiosity or overconfidence to the world, but this is only to cover up deep feelings of insecurity and a fragile self-esteem that is easily bruised by the slightest criticism. Because of these traits, narcissists find themselves in shallow relationships that only serve to satisfy their constant need for attention. When narcissistic traits become so pronounced that they lead to impairment this can indicate the presence of narcissistic personality disorder. 

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders describes narcissistic personality disorder as “a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy that begins by early adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts”. People with narcissistic personality disorder show a grandiose sense of self-importance, are consumed by fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty or ideal love, and are extremely sensitive to criticism, among other things. 

Younger people and men seem to be most affected. The exact causes of narcissistic personality disorder are unknown, but childhood abuse and neglect may be possible factors involved in its formation. 

What has led to its increase?

In the clinical setting, about 2% to 16% of people suffer from this disorder, while in the general population, less than 1% of people are affected. Some suggest that narcissistic personality disorder is quite rare, but study estimates vary widely depending on sample sizes and the ways that narcissistic traits are assessed

Others have labelled narcissism a “modern epidemic”, pointing to the rapid change in society that occurred in industrial and post-industrial times as the cause. The past few decades have witnessed a societal shift from a commitment to the collective to a focus on the individual or the self. The self-esteem movement was an important turning point in this. It determined that self-esteem was the key to success in life. Educators and parents started telling their children how special and unique they are to make them feel more confident. Parents tried to “confer” self-esteem upon their children, rather than letting them achieve it through hard work.

The rise of individualism (with its focus on the self and inner feelings) and decline in social norms that accompanied the modernisation of society also meant that the community and the family were no longer able to provide the same support for individuals as they once did. And research has shown that being embedded in social networks – for example, being actively engaged in your community and connected with friends and family – has major health benefits

As the social fabric deteriorated, it became much harder to meet the basic need for meaningful connection. The question moved from what is best for other people and the family to what is best for me. The modernisation of society seemed to prize fame, wealth, celebrity above all else. All this, combined with the breakdown in social ties created an “empty self, shorn of social meaning”. 

The rise in technology and the development of hugely popular social networking sites, such as Facebook, further changed the way we spend our free time and communicate. Today, there are nearly 936m active Facebook users each day worldwide. Internet addiction is a new area of study in mental health and recent cross-sectional research shows that addiction to Facebook is strongly linked to narcissistic behaviour and low self-esteem

So what can we do about it?

Treatment for narcissistic personality disorder exists and this includes pharmacotherapy and psychotherapy. Meditation has also been shown to have positive effects on mental health. Further research, however, is needed on the effectiveness of various treatments. 

So what can we do about all this and how can we lead a happy and purposeful life? One of the largest studies on happiness was conducted by a group of Harvard researchers who followed a large cohort of people over a period of 75 years. What they discovered – unsurprisingly – was that fame and money were not the secrets to happiness. Rather, the most important thing in life and the greatest predictor of satisfaction was having strong and supportive relationships – essentially, that “the journey from immaturity to maturity is a sort of movement from narcissism to connection”. 

So maybe it’s time to take a break from that smartphone, shut off your computer and meet up with a friend or two. Maybe, just maybe, you might feel a little better – and boost your self-esteem.

This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.
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